Educación, Psicología & Ciencia

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Watercolors & Words

A new way to approach grief; Pain is the price we pay for love!!


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Peace of Mind

You once told me you wanted to find yourself in the world, and I told you to first apply within, to discover the world within you.

You once told me you wanted to save the world from all its wars, and I told you to first save yourself from the world, and all the wars you put yourself through. – Suzy Kassem.

We are stuck in our own heads. Is not a way out?

– Yes, stop over-thinking, obsessive thinking and worrying too much. – Move on!
– Where is the anxiety button? Is it possible to shut down this state? Maybe the pill will help.
– There aren´t pills for a state of mind… How many years have you been taking benzodiazepines?
– Three years with Alprazolam (Xanax) … but I tried others like Diazepam [1] (Valium)… etc.
– How old are you?
– I am 29 years old
– What´s the main problem?
– I cannot control my thinking.

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Language Disorders and ADHD

changing-emotions-e1312588361414Children with ADHD are likely to have trouble at school, not just because they have a hard time paying attention, but because they also need good communication skills in the classroom.

Children with ADHD struggle more with language comprehension than children with reading and writing disorders.

These kids, have also problems using the language in social contexts. It means they are sometimes aware that “something is wrong” with them. It´s very frustrating.

What makes the ADHD child with a language problem different to other children?  – Language processing difficulties.

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La voz negativa interior


La voz negativa interior que todos tenemos, que nos ataca y nos juzga fue denominada por el psicólogo Eugene Sagan con el nombre de crítica patológica. Esa crítica siempre nos acusa, nos presiona en la consecución de objetivos imposibles para fustigarnos ante el mínimo error. Ante el hipotético caso de acercarnos a ese anhelado objetivo, nos compara a los demás quedando nosotros siempre en desventaja.

La crítica, tiene muchas armas, destacando como las más efectivas, todos los valores y reglas que forman parte de nuestra estructura psíquica durante nuestra vida. En esencia, se vuelven los “debes” establecidos, contra nosotros mismos. (A. Barca)

La única diferencia entre todos nosotros consiste en que de algún modo algunas personas se sienten capaces de callar su propia voz negativa, otras no.  Las primeras siempre avanzan pese a la adversidad, las segundas se quedan paralizadas.

La mala medición del incompetente se debe a un error sobre sí mismo, mientras que la mala medición del competente se debe a un error acerca de los demás. David Dunning y Justin Kruger 

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Painting with watercolors of education in Germany

25 th January 2015, Frankfurt am Main

From here, a wooden table located in front a high window surrounded with white frames, I started to think how necessary is to bring back the arts and music to the school. I am watching through the window five kids playing in the playground, while the snow is falling down slowly on the top of some random pieces of art. There is some graffiti in black, intentionally located there, which says: Give love back!

Unfortunately, I am not an artist; maybe an amateur in some disciplines as creative writing or painting. I am learning to control the creative process in writing activities (such poetry, stories…) but I do not with painting. The reason is simple; the inspiration comes and suddenly disappears. Sigue leyendo

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El cerebro materno y el desarrollo humano

El cerebro materno y la neurociencia del desarrollo

Siempre hemos escuchado que las mamás son capaces de reconocer el llanto de sus bebés incluso en una sala de incubación. Es real. Durante el nacimiento del bebé, no solo él sufre cambios anatómicos y funcionales en su cerebro, también su cuidador. Las madres, gracias a estos cambios cerebrales se convierten en potenciales cuidadoras siendo capaces de percibir los estímulos convenientes del niño, dando la respuesta adecuada a los mismos.

Las respuestas de cuidado a los niños recién nacidos afectan a su desarrollo infantil, es decir, a las bases de desarrollo neurológico, cognitivo y socio-afectivo.

Los cambios más importantes en el cerebro de las mamás tienen lugar durante los primeros meses posteriores al parto, periodo en el que el desarrollo maternofilial se profundiza. Aumenta el volumen de la sustancia gris en el cortex prefrontal, el lóbulo pariental superior e inferior y diversas áreas subcorticales como el hipotálamo, la sustancia negra y la conocidísima amígdala.

Estas áreas están relacionadas con las conductas de cuidado y supervivencia, la motivación maternal, regulación emocional, percepción de estímulos, el sistema de recompensa y la percepción positiva que tienen las madres sobre sus hijos.

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Go where the magic happens

comfort-zone_51380055e087c34c09dc3c5dPerfectionism is an adiction, it is an insidious thing that destroys our happiness and even kill our productivity. The true sign of a perfectionist is the never ending discontent with ourselves and our work – “It is not perfect. It have to do

I know what are you thinking right now, “you work hard to achieve the best results you can“. Seems like, somebody has instilled us the work ethics and responsibility (the “must be right now” attitude), maybe our experiences taught us that it is the best way to behave. And It is good, but there is a dark side in perfectionism, when the fear disables us or keep us from getting things done or undertake a new stage in our lives. Sometimes we procrastinate because it is never good enough, because we are scared and worried about mediocrity.

I can say this because I started three books in my life and I have finished one of them because I assumed somehow that will be absolutely imperfect and full of mistakes… and I am still struggling. Believe me.

This is the reason why I created a personal “Fear Free Zone” and I started to be aware about how much affect the perfectionism in my future productivity and even my life and my perception of balance and happiness . And I started to get involved in activities which I couldn’t handle 100%, useful activities that will make me grow as person, pushing me out of my comfort zone. – It is being hard. For sure, but at the same time I am adding much value to my life, I am getting things done. I am now writing in a language different to mine and trying to be more fluent each day – of course it is not perfect and I need to improve but maybe is good enough to express myself in this moment or to be more productive at work. I traveled alone, I designed things, I teached to kids and families, I got involved again at university and research, I write pretty much and I enjoy more . Next week I will travel to Romania and I will be part in a project related with communication. Fear is not place to live.  

The first step in combating perfectionism is to deliberaty be imperfect. Failures teaches humility, relieves the anxiety of perfectionism and the most important “programs the mind to think of alternatives”.

Make small mistakes and don´t fix them. Instead, you may just find yourself being imperfectly happy.

Just, Try to Do it!

Go where the magic happens